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pies26
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 Posted - 03/17/2009 : 9:43:49 PM
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I've always been intrested in nudism and have love and felt comfortable about it, The only thing is haw can I tell my mother? She has never been anywhere where nudists go and I don't think she even knows any thing about nudism. Please help me!!!
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sailawaybob
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Posted - 03/17/2009 : 10:05:56 PM
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Pie I had to look at your profile to see that you are 19 , my question is why do you want to tell your mother, I have been interested in some form of nudism since I was 8 but didn't tell my parents and the only reason my mother found out I ( we) were nudist is when she commented to my son years ago about his nice tan to which he replied "I got a all over nice tan" needless to say we had to explain our nudist activites. But if you want to open up to her about it and she has question maybe let her go to the AANR ( american association for nude recreation or TNS ( the naturist society ) site to see what nudism is about. good luck.
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pies26
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Posted - 03/17/2009 : 10:24:34 PM
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The only reason I want to tell my mother is that I want her to know the full me and not be disapionted in me if she found out. But, hey thanks for the advice!
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Rodders
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Posted - 03/20/2009 : 04:45:39 AM
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Hi Pie,
I honestly think that most people have pretty open views on naturism. That is to say that whilst many would not wish to become nudists they nevertheless don't necessarily have any radically adverse opinions. Perhaps it would be a good idea to ask your mother how she feels about naturism in general. If she thinks that it is a healthy thing to do it will be a whole lot easier to start discussing your own love of being naked. Mums love their children and it's odds on that she would take a supportive view if you handle her with care. It may even be that she has tried skinny dipping earlier in her life. Being a nudist is after all a wholesome way of life providing one respects others. Also don't lose sight that your mother has a lot of life's experience behind her and that brings wisdom and tolerance. I sincerely wish you good luck.
Some time ago my wife told her sister and brother in law that we had been nudists for years and I was amazed at their reaction. Soon, they were asking about our holidays trips to beaches and our club. This removed any need to be evasive about where we'd been. It's a whole lot easier. A few weeks ago my sister-in-law asked if we had any pictures from our last holiday to Club Orient and made the point that she had no problems with nudity. Now she has a clear impression of Club Orient and thought it looked marvellous despite having no intentions of becoming a naturist herself. Neither she or us were at all embarrassed as she turned the pages of the photo album. Being open can be the best way.
Rod
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olwino1
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Posted - 03/20/2009 : 08:19:20 AM
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I would tend to agree that being open is the best way . However , I would advise that you make certain you are totally comfortable with your own choices first . Go have a good time and explore new friends . Down the road you can always decide to share this aspect of your life with family members . Remember you are hurting no one by saying nothing . Take your time and learn about yourself first .
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NudeAl
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Posted - 03/20/2009 : 10:18:51 PM
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A parent will always love you no matter what. Of all the people I have ever been worried who might find out about my nudist tendecies my family has never been one of them family sticks together through thick and thin I don't think she will ever think anyting but the best of you. She will always worry over you though that is a different matter. Good luck
The woods are lovely, dark and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep, And miles to go before I sleep. -- Robert Frost
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agde
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Posted - 03/21/2009 : 03:25:09 AM
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Pie -- I'm sort of known for being an old hippie liberal so I hear about these things. One of my students, also 19, just talked to her mom during spring break and she said she launched the conversation with three main messages in mind. First that she had discovered that she was just as comfortable with or without clothes, and was kind of enjoying mixing in some clothes-free time into her daily routine. Second that since becoming more easy-going about clothing she was feeling less stressed and healthier -- the "air time" was relaxing like a mini-vacation. And third that, although it was really no big deal, she just wanted to mention it so that her mom wasn't surprised or worry. It turned out her mom was very positive and supportive. She had some cautionary advice of course, but otherwise they seemed to have a good chat about naturism, women's issues, and all kinds of related things.
Anyway, parents-kids have all sorts of different relationships, but if it is possible to be casual and open, go for it! As NudeAl says, "A parent will always love you no matter what" but frankly, from a parent's perspective, finding out that your healthy, happy, confident kid enjoys some clothes-free time is unlikely to rate any angst on the distress-o-meter.
(The Naturist Society "205 Arguments" is always good prep and of course there are lots of young naturists online (eg. YNAI) who've faced this.)
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Smithy
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Posted - 03/21/2009 : 09:05:00 AM
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both my parents know, it don't bother them at all, they very laid back but I can't skinny dip with them in their pool. I told a friend once, she told I was crazy and my daughter should never see me nude I tried to explain she not at all interested.
Smithy
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pies26
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Posted - 03/26/2009 : 8:14:46 PM
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Thanks guys I really apreciate it!
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prism2525
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Posted - 03/26/2009 : 9:28:56 PM
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Hello pie26,
I think I would have bigger problems in telling MY mother about my nudism as I'm a male and she'd definately go for the "My son is a pervert sinner. Shame on our family!!!" kind of reasoning.
I think a woman actually thinking about nudism is actually showing some real bravery.
On another note, you could save up some money in case she throws you out and need to rent a place.
Good luck.
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agde
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Posted - 03/27/2009 : 3:21:45 PM
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Pie -- Did you see this CAYAnet blog on talking to parents?
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Saxman
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Posted - 04/11/2009 : 7:34:40 PM
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Pies26,
I never really told my mother. She eventually figured it out after seeing me naked in my room everytime I came home from college. I just let her walk in on me nude a few times then it became no big deal. However, it wasn't a big deal to start with. You just have to act completely normal when she sees you nude, and the situation will be just fine. If she asks why you're naked, just tell her that enjoy the freedom of wearing no clothes and that you feel comfortable with her seeing you nude. I think you will find the results pleasing and rather surprising. Take care, and keep us updated! Enjoy being clothes-free!
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rooftopwilly
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Posted - 04/11/2009 : 10:59:29 PM
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I've never specifically told my mom, but I know my wife has made many comments over the years about me doing this and that naked, that my mom must have some idea.
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NudeAl
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Posted - 04/12/2009 : 10:15:50 AM
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I think that there are very few things that moms don't know about. In my own case I know she knows because my wife told her about it but we have not had longs talks on the subject. I could see it happening though all about timeing I suppose.
The woods are lovely, dark and deep, But I have promises to keep, And miles to go before I sleep, And miles to go before I sleep. -- Robert Frost
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Warmskin
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Posted - 04/15/2009 : 12:23:35 AM
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Originally posted by pies26
The only reason I want to tell my mother is that I want her to know the full me and not be disapionted in me if she found out. But, hey thanks for the advice!
Two ways to go about it, depending on reading into the circumstances at home. One approach is gradualism. Over time, people can adjust and adapt to new situations, if they happen in slow motion. Mentioning that you don't like to wear some conventional clothing like the ones you mentioned, and possibly mentioning that you slept nude just to try it out once. One little thing after another. Of course, some things depend how busy your mom is, too. If she has little to do, then she can think about you more, or if she has a full time job, belongs to all types of groups, clubs, civic activities, then she doesn't have time to obsess over your not wearing certain kinds of clothes anymore.
The other way is to come right out and say, "Mom, guess what? I've become a nudist!!!" It depends on whether or not your mom is the type who can take that sort of seemingly shocking event. If she is demur, very proper at all times, this way might not go over too well. If she led a wild and crazy life when she was 19, it might go over okay. On the other hand, you could talk to her about "some article in the (highly respected) Internet news" and see if she is willing to talk about it, and see if she is quite comfortable with the subject, too. You need to "measure" your mom's attitude about life. That can be hard to do sometimes, but it is the key as to how you would tell her.
You need to get in touch with the kind of mom you have, as to either how rigid she is, or how flexible she is in her mind.
"Rock and Roll, man, on K-WASH FM, yo, raaaaap with me, mama, with 50 Cent. Git it on, Baby! "
George Washington
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