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TigerTiger
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 Posted - 09/26/2011 : 11:58:04 AM
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We can all think of things that might make us uneasy in a clothing-optional/nudist setting, but it's one thing to imagine and another to have experienced.
The first time I went to a nudist area, it was a nude beach. I expected people of all ages to be there, but I was the youngest and no one else was even close to my age. I had the feeling that everyone noticed and was watching me the whole time. The second time I went, I no longer felt that way.
The first time I went to a nudist resort, it was a rustic, non-commercial one (won't name it) that also had full-time residents. The residents and regulars were very friendly so there wasn't a clique in that sense, but the residential area was strictly off-limits to non-residents. When the teenage residents stopped by the pool area, they were fully clothed for the most part, and this made me feel like an unwelcome guest in someone else's home, as if the residents were only nude in their own area and didn't want to be nude in front of strangers. It even made me feel like I wasn't a true nudist, and that I was just trying naturism while they were living it.
Later that night when it became chilly, except for a few people in the background, everyone else but me was dressed, and there I was at a nudist resort feeling uneasy about being naked. But it was cold, so I got dressed. When everyone went indoors they were still clothed even though it was warm enough to be nude, and I didn't feel comfortable undressing. At that point it didn't feel like a nudist resort anymore, until the next morning at least.
And maybe it's all in my head, or first-time jitters. I was also surprised at some of the comments the residents/regulars made about body parts. Harmless humor, but I didn't think anyone was supposed to pay attention to those areas, much less comment on them. It makes me wonder if anyone was paying attention to me in that way. Most of them were older and out of shape, but that doesn't mean you can't judge someone by the standards you used to have, or the standards you expect, and so on. I'm comfortable enough with myself to be naked, but I still wonder what others think of me: am I too small? does not being shaved make me stand out? what about being uncircumcised? am I too pale or do my tan lines show too much?
But I try to dismiss the uneasiness as normal paranoia and just assume that no one gives more than a passing glance or thought.
If you can relate to this, or have any uneasy experiences you'd like to share, please do.
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Posted - 09/26/2011 : 12:38:45 PM
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I am attending my first social nude swim/sauna this weekend. My anxiety is a bit high as I hope no one will stare or negatively comment. I love my body,including it's flaws and hope that my confidence in being nude and my friendly personality will be evident.
Peace.
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Bob Knows
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Posted - 09/26/2011 : 1:37:46 PM
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I agree with TigerTiger about residents and regulars who go clothed to a C/O or "nudist" resort. It really sends the wrong message. I can recall numerous times where I was the only naked guy at a C/O resort.
I recall one C/O resort where I was something of a "regular" that in the 90's we would see the management out cleaning the pool naked. In the 00's, the same management was clothed while cleaning the same pool. I expect to see naked people at a "nudist" or "C/O" resort, and management, including those who benefit by living there, need to set the standard by going about their work naked.
TigerTiger's comment about everyone else being clothed indoors reminds me of an article I read some years ago about an annual meeting of the International Nudist Federation. The President of the group observed that he was the only naked person in attendance. One has to wonder what these clothed groups are really promoting. Are people naked at the AANR business meetings? Is the office staff naked while working in the AANR office? Are they setting an example? I don't know.
I also would not appreciate negative comments about my body from residents or regulars as TigerTiger mentions. Is this a resort for all people or a parade of "models"? The kind of comments that TigerTiger describes would be just plain rude in any space, not just nude space. Again, ownership and management need to set the example and discourage rude behavior by regulars and residents.
Blessings
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Nudony
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Posted - 09/26/2011 : 11:20:53 PM
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I've also read stories about clothed residents at C/O resorts. I won't go too much into my personal philosophy about the C/O resort; but I determined a long time ago that it wasn't for me. In my experience, there is a strange dynamic that occurs when some people decide to stay dressed at a resort - not because they are new, not because of body-acceptance issues, but simply because they don't want to be nude - and mingle with the nude. A sort of underlying sarcasm. And I also find it unsettling.
This resort I'm about to describe is a rustic resort. When you pull in the parking lot, you see people undressing by their car and then walking to the front desk nude. In the front offfice you can find the manager's wife, who is nude greeting guests and friends. Her husband is usually somewhere on the grounds fixing something, and nude while doing it. They have dinner on the weekends, and when I asked if I should get dressed for dinner, the reply was "Oh no, we have dinner nude too!" To me, that is the essence of what resort nudism should be about.
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nudesunguy
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Posted - 09/27/2011 : 2:46:50 PM
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Many years ago my wife and I went to a nudist resort on the east coast. Once we got there, we found out they had a lot of rules, including that you were only allowed 3 visits before you had to either join the resort or not visit again. In addition, you had to have 3 members interview you and vouch for your character. Since we lived quite far away, we weren't interested in joining, yet still ended up being interviewed by members in a sort of uncomfortable situation. I'm hoping they changed this policy.
Also, Glenn Eden used to have the policy (and maybe still does) that first time visitors have to take the resort tour naked. My wife is a long time nudist and had no problem with this, however she met a newbie woman in the changing room who was almost crying from being told she had to strip immediately and be driven all over the property, as opposed to gradually disrobing in some less busy area.
I do agree with the comments about nudist resort workers who stay clothed. I mean, if you like to work with your clothes on so much, maybe you should give your job to a nudist. I don't think I've ever seen the general manager of Laguna del Sol naked, for example.
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Seaturtle
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Posted - 09/30/2011 : 3:10:09 PM
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We go to Cypress Cove in Orlando once a year and sometimes we hit it when the weather is cool by Floridian standards. Because we are there for only 3-days, we like to be nude no matter the weather, as opposed to someone who lives there year-round. The full-time residents can pick the nicer days to be nude while we have no choice. Therefore, we have been in a few situations where we are the only ones nude. Although the sports bar, restaurant and rec building are very comfortable, because the weather is not typcial Florida weather, the residents stay clothed for the most part. A few of the residents we see each year, explained this to us and we have grown comfortable with it, as they have grown comfortable with us each year.
Hope that helps.
I hope that helps.
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intheflesh
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Posted - 09/30/2011 : 5:49:36 PM
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wow that bothers me a bit because my wife and i are planning out first nude vacation and i want it to be a great. we are looking at this resort to be our first but i dont want her to feel uncomfortable in the setting i hope we encounter mostly nude so she can relax. other comments would be great thanks
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Seaturtle
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Posted - 10/01/2011 : 09:30:23 AM
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intheflesh:
Cypress Cove is great and I hope I did not give the wrong impression. The residents are great and love new faces and new people to talk to.
I was merely trying to explain why you may encounter textiles at an all nude residential resort. Again, it is rare, but when it is raining or overcast, the residents put on clothes, which is normal. But, when you are on a 3-day nude vacation, we like to be nude as much as possible. Plus, what Southerners think is cool is warn to Northerners.
You will have a great time there no matter what you wear or don't wear.
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TigerTiger
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Posted - 10/02/2011 : 6:34:10 PM
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I recently went to a different, commercial nudist resort. It had new buildings and several pools/hot tubs to choose from, but I liked the rustic one better because there was more friendliness. At the commercial one, everyone just stuck to themselves or with their own group. That bothered me, but I guess it's no different than regular resorts, except everyone's naked. The staff members wore employee uniforms, and it made it seem almost like it wasn't a nudist resort, but a regular resort that was hosting a nudist gathering. Are the employees nudists, too? If so, I see it as a disadvantage for them. For one, you have to be clothed most of the week and watch everyone else be nude, and by the time you're done with work, the only options you have for being nude are at home or going back home and then coming back to work, and unless you really love your job, there's no going to where you work on your off time and feeling comfortable.
There were also a lot of homes and lots for sale. A few of the lots were for sale by owner, which seemed to me kind of a bad sign. Most of the homes weren't sold yet, and were ridiculously priced for their size and almost no yard. I get the idea of living in a nudist resort (this is why people call them nudist colonies; normal resorts don't have full-time residents), because you want to be naked in a nice environment and not get arrested, but then, how would you invite guests over, considering they'd have to pay every time they visited? Even if they were nudists or okay with nudism, I don't think many people would want to pay to visit a friend regularly.
Overall, it had the same features typical of a nudist resort: pool, horseshoe/volleyball area, small nature trail, clubhouse. The people weren't very social, so I got bored fast. In an hour I had walked the poor excuse for a nature trail, relaxed by myself in both hot tubs, and ate lunch. It'd be great if nudist resorts were more like small towns instead of gated communities. By that I mean they'd have different shops and restaurants, maybe even a park. The everyday places you visit, but clothing optional.
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intheflesh
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Posted - 10/03/2011 : 05:30:02 AM
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intheflesh:
Cypress Cove is great and I hope I did not give the wrong impression. The residents are great and love new faces and new people to talk to.
I was merely trying to explain why you may encounter textiles at an all nude residential resort. Again, it is rare, but when it is raining or overcast, the residents put on clothes, which is normal. But, when you are on a 3-day nude vacation, we like to be nude as much as possible. Plus, what Southerners think is cool is warn to Northerners.
You will have a great time there no matter what you wear or don't wear.
Thanks for the response yes my wife and I are very much looking forward to our vacation there.
First timers so wish us luck
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Nudesuncpl
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Posted - 10/03/2011 : 07:43:49 AM
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TigerTiger: It's our understanding that guests of residents don't have to pay a grounds fee every time they visit the resident. I guess it depends on the particular resort.
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Bob Knows
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Posted - 10/03/2011 : 10:10:14 AM
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Originally posted by TigerTiger
The staff members wore employee uniforms, and it made it seem almost like it wasn't a nudist resort, but a regular resort that was hosting a nudist gathering. Are the employees nudists, too? If so, I see it as a disadvantage for them.
I don't know for sure but I suspect that many of the staff are just people hired locally, not nudists. If the management required employee nudity, perhaps with a small "uniform" identifier, they would have to pay more. Or, perhaps the phony "health rules" in some areas require specific clothing for food workers. In our state the state law prohibits nude entertainment, and doesn't have an exception for entertainers working at nudist venues.
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There were also a lot of homes and lots for sale. A few of the lots were for sale by owner, which seemed to me kind of a bad sign. Most of the homes weren't sold yet, and were ridiculously priced for their size and almost no yard.
I'm not surprised at the high number of homes for sale, that seems to be the case everywhere during the Obama depression. I have known people who owned a second or weekend home at a nudist park. They didn't really live there, just bought the house to have a weekend place. They didn't bring non-nudist friends to visit.
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In an hour I had walked the poor excuse for a nature trail, relaxed by myself in both hot tubs, and ate lunch. It'd be great if nudist resorts were more like small towns instead of gated communities. By that I mean they'd have different shops and restaurants, maybe even a park. The everyday places you visit, but clothing optional.
I have also found that there really isn't much to do for a single person at most resorts, naked or otherwise. You get to lay on a mat and read a book. That's about it after the first hour.
I have had some good experiences. My first wife and I visited White Tail Park a few years ago. We happened to be there on their Independence Day celebration. There was a dinner and nude dancing. A big party. It was fun long into the evening.
Blessings
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Warmskin
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Posted - 10/15/2011 : 02:44:09 AM
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Questions about what makes me uneasy, makes me uneasy.
“I rise early almost every morning and sit in my chamber, without any clothes whatever, half an hour or an hour, according to the season, either reading or writing.”
Ben Franklin
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nudesunguy
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Posted - 10/15/2011 : 11:46:41 AM
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Questions about what makes me uneasy, makes me uneasy.
Good one!
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TigerTiger
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Posted - 10/22/2011 : 1:25:30 PM
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wArmSkin and nudeSunguy, thank you for your valuable input. Have a nice day and gOod Luck in thE future. See ya!
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Warmskin
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Posted - 10/25/2011 : 12:08:50 AM
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wArmSkin and nudeSunguy, thank you for your valuable input. Have a nice day and gOod Luck in thE future. See ya!
It's not easy coming up with these invaluable philosophical insights that improve mankind, especially mankind who can't remember where their clothes are, and don't want to know.
We appreciate your encouragement!! 
“I rise early almost every morning and sit in my chamber, without any clothes whatever, half an hour or an hour, according to the season, either reading or writing.”
Ben Franklin
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