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bigwhite1017
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 5:57:16 PM
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Hey, i made an account on here to ask about my son and his desired to become a nudist, any help is greatly appreciated.
1. My son has been researching nudism and thinks it would be the right choice for him.
2. I have a couple questions about nudism, sorry if i offend anyone.
If my son is nudist, should the me and my wife become a nudist too?
My son is a taller kid and he has a couple stretchmarks from growing so tall before his skin was ready, do nudists mind that stuff?
Since my son is 13, his hormones have been elevating lately, since it would be his first time attempting going to a place where nudists hang out, what would happen if he had an errection if some girls were around, would it be ok if it was his first time or not?
Do nudists care about how other people look, as in some of there body parts aren't big enough?
Any help is appreciated, if not on here you can reach me on aim, u can instant message me, my screenname is bigwhite1017 thanks
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nudeynudenude
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 6:12:46 PM
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I think the most impressive thing in regards to nudism is people have a greater acceptance of the human body as it is. It doesn't matter how old you are or how you appear. Each and every one of use is very different, so i don't think your son would have to worry too much about what people think of them. Real Nudists are the people who see beyond the body, they are the people that won't think twice about a stretch mark.
It's all about how your son feels as a person. If he wants to go ahead and try out the lifestyle then by all means i wouldn't stop him. Perhaps you and your wife should join him and see how it goes.
I don't know about anyone else here, but i'm not so sure about throwing him in the deep end and going to a nude beach yet. Perhaps let him try it out at home first and then elsewhere.
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bigwhite1017
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 6:26:06 PM
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ok i'll see and i'm 41, any1 else 4 advice
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pilot
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 9:42:14 PM
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A great deal depends on why your son thinks nudism would be the right choice for him. The teen years often pull kids towards body consciousness and excessive modesty. So your son is moving in the opposite direction.
Provided his reasoning is well thought out--comfort, simplicity and so on--it's a reasonable (and I would argue mature) decision. I agree that nudity begins at home, and I understand that his decision is forcing you to examine your own perspectives. A lot depends on what your comfort zone is, but if it's in your power and comfort to join him in this experiment, do so.
Erections are a fact of life. Older boys and men get them. I would not worry too much about nudity per se causing erections--seeing lots of other people nude is remarkable unarousing. But he should have a plan about how to cover up and let the arousal subside.
I do think that it is in everyone's best interest that he not attend nude functions unaccompanied by a parent unless it is an AANR sponsored function such as Nude U.
If you have not visited aanr.com, it's a useful website.
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bigwhite1017
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 10:01:00 PM
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thanks for the adivce everybody
anything about the stretchmark issue?
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pilot
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 10:44:09 PM
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Stretchmarks, scars and so on are really non-issues in the nudist community. Body acceptance is the norm. It's not uncommon to see (for example) women with mastectomies at a nude beach.
Unrelated to the issue of nudism, 13 is an extremely important time in a child's life--it is a time to increase activity and exercise. Team sports, workouts with light weights, aerobic cardiovascular activities are all important to developing bodies at this age. "Body acceptance" can cut both ways--it can allow people to settle for what they are, or it can encourage them to be as healthy and active as they can be. At 13, it is important that comfort with physical self and physical body serve as a encouragement to a lifetime of healthy activity and exercise.
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bornnude
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Posted - 07/19/2008 : 11:47:20 PM
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As far as you and your wife becoming nudists... No, you wouldn't need to but you might find you enjoy it also.
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nudeisntlewd
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 03:47:30 AM
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quote: Originally posted by pilot
Stretchmarks, scars and so on are really non-issues in the nudist community. Body acceptance is the norm. It's not uncommon to see (for example) women with mastectomies at a nude beach.
Unrelated to the issue of nudism, 13 is an extremely important time in a child's life--it is a time to increase activity and exercise. Team sports, workouts with light weights, aerobic cardiovascular activities are all important to developing bodies at this age. "Body acceptance" can cut both ways--it can allow people to settle for what they are, or it can encourage them to be as healthy and active as they can be. At 13, it is important that comfort with physical self and physical body serve as a encouragement to a lifetime of healthy activity and exercise.
I totally agree with everything pilot says here. And I especially like the last statement (which I highlighted in bold.) I find that it is a great motivator for me personally. Nothing is more important than good health. Take it from me, once it goes, it's hard to get back!
I carry scars on my leg and chest from by-pass surgery I had when I was 40. I’ve never had anyone look at them or ask at a nude beach, or even when I just had my shirt off. Only once did a new acquaintance notice my leg when I was wearing shorts and ask, “What happened to your leg? Did you have by-pass surgery?” I said yes, and that was all there was to it. You’ll find that most of us are unremarkable and quite average. I can’t imagine anyone even noticing stretch marks. No, nudists don't care what another person looks like. So don’t worry so much about appearance. Just be happy with your self and work to improve, if you like.
I would allow him to learn, develop or explore his personal comfort level at home first. When it becomes completely comfortable and natural, the condition of being nude will become uneventful. It will probably make the two of you more comfortable too. Then go with him to a beach or resort. I wouldn’t recommend he go alone, especially at first. After a while, he could go to an AANR youth camp if there is one available reasonably close to you.
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Balto Bob
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 05:17:15 AM
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This thread has some good advise. Both for bigwhite and any other parents dealing with this issue. First, I would let him sleep nude (probably is already). Let him wear as little as YOU are comfortable with at home. Do you have other children? How does you wife feel about this? This changes a little if either of you is a stepparent. If you live near a nude beach (they are all really clothing optional) I would visit on a weekday morning. Gunnison (in NJ) opens at sunrise. Very few people on the beach the first couple hours. Be sure he understands that while nudity is fine, sending pictures of himself with a webcam of cellphone can cause BIG problems. Whether you join him is up to you and your wife. How private is your backyard? Do you have a lot of people in and out of your house? I don't know where you live or how soon you will read this (it is early Sunday morning here). Take your clothes off and see how it goes. GOOD LUCK
Bob Have a nice NUDE day !! www.flickr.com/photos/wespennest/2562019052/ www.youtube.com/watch?v=ME41quy9_x0
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bigwhite1017
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 08:01:18 AM
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For the ?'s the last guy asked me, yes, i do have another child, she's 11, and she's starting to grow up and just started getting hair in places, sometmes she walks around the house naked and doesn't seem to mind.
As for my wife she is pretty open minded about it. Sometimes she reads some of the topics and says nudists are very accepting and nice people.
Last night since my son wants to try the nudist life. I tried sleeping naked first. I could never get to sleep. I could close my eyes and almost fall asleep but i never fully went to sleep. Any tips on that??
Keep adding advice, the more the better
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txvic
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 08:39:26 AM
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I wouldn't worry too much about the new found intrest you son has. It sounds like maybe you should do your own research into nudism and make your own decision. I thing you and your wife should find a resort to visit and see how people relly behave at a resort. I was hard for me to believe at first just how non-sexual the nudist life could be until I actually visited a resort. As with other's suggestions start at home if everyone is ok with it. It sounds like you and your family may be on the verge of a great new discovery. Give it a try.
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bigwhite1017
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 09:23:50 AM
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thanks for the advice everybody
Does anyone have some hygiene advice for nudists. We are probably going to start being home nudists and are wondering about any tips.
In regard to home nudism with your family, does it at anytime feel akward seeing your kids naked and them seeing you naked?
I always feel alot better naked but i'm a little hesitant around my kids.
From my last reply if you read my daughter is starting to get pubic hair, and since my son is 13 in guessing he has hair too. What would be the best way for a home nudist to go, natural,trimmed, shaved?
more advice is helpful
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Cheri
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 11:15:44 AM
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Hygiene advice: always sit on your own towel. Not only is it more comfortable, but body oils do damage furniture.
Regarding shaving: That's a personal decision and has nothing to do with nudism. Each to his/her own.
It might be awkward at first, but you will all get used that in probably less than a half-hour.
Your son would not be allowed to visit a nudist club w/o his parents under the age of 18. Your profile doesn't mention where you are located so we cannot make recommendations.
Cheri
Doing what I can to positively promote nudism - http://pages.prodigy/cheridonna
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Balto Bob
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 11:15:54 AM
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There are threads on all the topics you are asking about. Go to SEARCH, be sure to change "search in" to SUBJCT ONLY. An entire section of the forum is about "shaving". There is a thread just on "teens". Reguarding the scars try reading "missing parts" . We have a HUGE thread on "erections". There are threads on "Do you sit nude on the furniture at home", several threads on "first visit"/"first time" to a nudist resort. As well as "female question" about dealing with periods (for your wife and daughter). I used the ""s to help find the topics, based on my memory of the titles. Also click on Active Polls.
Bob Have a nice NUDE day !! www.flickr.com/photos/wespennest/2562019052/ www.youtube.com/watch?v=ME41quy9_x0
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Balto Bob
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 11:31:59 AM
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quote: Originally posted by bigwhite1017
Last night since my son wants to try the nudist life. I tried sleeping naked first. I could never get to sleep. I could close my eyes and almost fall asleep but i never fully went to sleep. Any tips on that??
Keep adding advice, the more the better
It will pass rather quickly. Your body isn't used to the feeling. As I remove layers from my bed in the spring there is some adjustment. First time I use the ceiling fan, too. You may need LESS airconditioning.
Bob Have a nice NUDE day !! www.flickr.com/photos/wespennest/2562019052/ www.youtube.com/watch?v=ME41quy9_x0
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jim19452
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Posted - 07/20/2008 : 12:28:11 PM
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From what I've read your family is well along the way to becoming social nudists. I say give it a try. Remember to keep a towel between your hips and any public sitting/lieing place.
Best Wishes, Jim
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