Nudist-Resorts.Org - Naturist Discussion Forum / Bulletin Board


Nudist-Resorts.Org - Naturist Discussion Forum / Bulletin Board
Username:
Password:
Save Password


Register
Forgot Password?

About Us | Active Topics | Active Polls | Site News | Nudist News | Online Users | Members | Destinations | N. A. I. R. | My Page | Search
[ Active Members: 0 | Anonymous Members: 0 | Guests: 68 ]  [ Total: 68 ]  [ Newest Member: SciFiGuy3000 ]
 All Forums
 Nudist Men - From the Male Point of View
 Unwanted Erection
 Family with teenage boy thinking about joining
Previous Page
 New Topic |   Reply to Topic |   Printer Friendly
Author Previous Topic: Erections Topic Next Topic: question for circumcised nudists here
Page: of 2

JCP
Forum Member


Posted - 06/19/2013 :  8:14:52 PM  Show Profile  Visit JCP's Homepage  Reply with Quote
Thank you for your reply.

I appreciate the heads up about Amazon.

Naturism is a theme in my books but a complimentary one not the central one. I have given as open a description of myself and my objectives in my profile, it will explain where I'm coming from.

I want to say to the world, take note, adolescent sexuality is not taboo and should be discussed. Abusers will often step in to answer the questions children/adolescents have about sexual function. I'm trying to say, if you want a model for a healthy open environment where taboo is balanced with reality look at Naturists. This forum is the first honest and open discussion I've found. You wouldn't believe how many Naturist organisations have child protection policies but won't acknowledge childhood sexuality. If you won't discuss what's normal how can you fully protect from the abnormal? Passionate about this one

JCP



Country: United Kingdom | Posts: 57 Go to Top of Page

JCP
Forum Member


Posted - 06/19/2013 :  8:18:22 PM  Show Profile  Visit JCP's Homepage  Reply with Quote
Sorry, when I say you it's 'everybody', nothing personal. New to this forum experience.


Edited by - JCP on 07/06/2013 12:11:48 PM

Country: United Kingdom | Posts: 57 Go to Top of Page

Erin948
New Member

Posted - 06/21/2013 :  4:44:14 PM  Show Profile  Send Erin948 a Yahoo! Message  Reply with Quote
We are at the point where my teenage son has just started getting frequent erections. They are embarrassing for him and as of late hes wanted to start wearing clothes at home because of it. Have been thinking about joining a nudist resort this summer, maybe to put his mind at ease and make him feel better about himself but not sure how we would handle him walking around like that if hes going to get frequent erections.


Country: | Posts: 7 Go to Top of Page

JCP
Forum Member


Posted - 06/21/2013 :  4:53:11 PM  Show Profile  Visit JCP's Homepage  Reply with Quote
From what I've read on forums and Naturist sites there seems to be real atrophy amongst adolescents and I think it's a great shame. In the UK you have to be 18 to join Young Naturists and that seems to be missing the point. Teenagers exist through unity and shared experience. They want to hang around in like minded groups and reinforce their belief systems.

I haven't come across any group that empower teenagers in Naturism and deals with their specific needs, just families on their own in what tends to be dispersed community when not congregated at a beach or club.

As a fourteen year old boy I'm sure pressures from the more active interests his 'textile' friends have, awareness of his developing sexuality and external taboos from outside the Naturist community are having their toll.

You could suggest a skinny dipping party for all his mates and try and bring them to him but the chances are you would be locked up.

Personally, I think teenagers need adult guidance more than at any other time. Their not meant to exist and were never designed in nature to be trapped between childhood and belonging to the adult community. They need help with that but it seems to be a time when parents want to step back a little and give them the independence society has deemed they can't have.

As my stepson went through his teens we had a very open relationship. It led to too much information being received at times and his habit of peeing with the bathroom door open but the upside was the more he understood his behaviour was natural and what he did was not a slap in the face of family and normal development the less his cause was a revolution. I think we rode those years well and the fact that even at eighteen he would happily give his mother and I a hug and a kiss in spite of his mates jeering looks still makes me feel proud.

I hope you don't feel this is a crude answer but it certainly matches my research and experience. Don't just except that erections are part of teenage life, acknowledge they have a purpose and discuss them with him.

A good way to prevent an unwanted erection is to find a private place and masturbate. That's what his hormones are trying to tell him and so should you, not his peers, not urban legend but his parents.

Erections are part of his claim to a new adult body, he should be proud that it's all working. Flaunting is socially unacceptable but having one shouldn't be. It's not his responsibility to look embarrassed, it's other's responsibility
to look away.

I don't believe in super human Naturists with no sexual response, they learn appropriate behaviour.

Appropriate behaviour for a fourteen year old boy is having and erection,.

Buy him a star chart


Hope this is helpful, non of its advertising, just research I've been doing for my books.


http://www.nudist-resorts.org/talk/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=5186

http://www.sevencounties.org/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=41181&cn=1310

http://pw1.netcom.com/~docx2/USB1.htm

http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/ATLAS*EN/html/sexual*activity*in*adolescence.html

http://askdrrobert.dr-robert.com/incest2.html

http://www.stopitnow.org/age*appropriate*sexual_behavior

http://www.mnadopt.org/Factsheets/Recognizing%20Healthy%20&%20Unhealthy%20Sexual%20Development%20in%20Children.pdf

http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/180108/results

http://www.youthandleadership.com/articles/masturbation

http://forums.govteen.com/h-d-general-information-faq/333231-jonathans-guide-boys-puberty-v2.html

http://puberty101.com/boys/am-i-gay/

http://www.healthlibrary.com/book37_chapter377.htm

http://www.handsonscotland.co.uk/topics/sexual_issues/general.html

http://www.nspcc.org.uk/help-and-advice/for-parents-and-carers/parenting-advice/child-sexual-behaviour/child-sexual-behaviour_wda92604.html

http://www.sylviakneal.com/articles/normal-sexual-behavior-in-children.php

http://www.desertviewsas.org/reactiveyouth.php

http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref*What*Normal/

http://brightfutures.aap.org/pdfs/Guidelines_PDF/9-Promoting-Healthy-Sexual-Development.pdf

http://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/dfs/childrenyouth/sexualbehaviorchildren.htm

http://www.actforyouth.net/health_sexuality/adolescence/sexual.cfm

More than happy for anybody to contact me directly but please be prepared to be open about who you are. I will discuss any aspect of my research in the strictist confidence. If something concerns you I've probably read what the professionals think and can either direct you to them or paraphrase.

dalmatianjones@gmail.com



Edited by - JCP on 07/07/2013 07:16:55 AM

Country: United Kingdom | Posts: 57 Go to Top of Page

Erin948
New Member

Posted - 06/21/2013 :  5:27:29 PM  Show Profile  Send Erin948 a Yahoo! Message  Reply with Quote
Thanks for the response, Everytime i look at my son hes walking around with frequent erections. I hope we can find a good way to deal with it. Hes been fine with nudity up until now. Your responses were pretty helpful. Things are difficult for both of us at the moment. Thanks,


Edited by - Erin948 on 06/21/2013 5:28:08 PM

Country: | Posts: 7 Go to Top of Page

sailawaybob
Forum Member


Posted - 06/24/2013 :  12:45:46 AM  Show Profile  Reply with Quote
if a teen is willing to go to a nudist camp/resort take them , kids aren't usually required to be nude unless they go into the pool, but they can get use to nudism at their own pace and other kids will help them get comfortable.


Country: USA | Posts: 1212 Go to Top of Page

MikeinFL10
New Member

Posted - 08/21/2015 :  1:02:50 PM  Show Profile  Send MikeinFL10 a Yahoo! Message  Reply with Quote
Understand your dilemma. But got a boy and girl thru all that (nude) with little trouble and lots of fun

Get with me I can help



Country: USA | Posts: 2 Go to Top of Page
Page: of 2 Previous Topic: Erections Topic Next Topic: question for circumcised nudists here  
 New Topic |   Reply to Topic |   Printer Friendly
Previous Page
Jump To:
Nudist-Resorts.Org Discussion Forum Bulletin Board Nudism Clothing Optional Resort Naturism Nude Beaches © 2002-2016 SUN Go To Top Of Page
This page was down to skin in 0.12 seconds.

 

General Rules and Terms of Service

Membership in the Nudist-Resorts.Org discussion forum is free, can be anonymous, and requires only a working email address. All email links to members are cloaked. You can disable your email link. Nude photos can be posted, if within our posting rules. No erotica, spam or solicitation is allowed here. References to sex or genitals in your username or profile will result in removal from the forum. Information and opinions regarding anything related to nudism are encouraged, including discussions concerning the confusion between nudism and eroticism if discussed maturely. All posts in this forum are moderated. Read our POSTING RULES here and here. All information appearing on this website is copyright and intellectual property of the Society for Understanding Nudism unless otherwise noted. The views expressed on these forums by participants are not necessarily representative of the Society for Understanding Nudism. Administrators reserve the right to delete anything outside the posting rules, or anything in their opinion not appropriate. To post, you must have cookies enabled and be at least 18 years of age.

Email the Webmaster | Legal Information

Copyright © 2002-2015 SUN - Society for Understanding Nudism
All Rights Reserved

Powered By: Snitz Forums 2000