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| smoothcrunch |
Posted - 09/26/2008 : 9:00:48 PM
Where you brought up in a nudist family. I did and I am so glad. I remember long hot summers when I would hardly wear a stitch all of the long school holidays. I was about 9 before mum and dad got a bit more forceful about having to wear something in the garden or on the textile beach. Indoors, as a family, we would all go bare, but visitors were a mix of other nudists, textiles who knew my parents were nudists, others who knew but were unhappy about them being bare and the occasional person they hadn't told. Never could tell who would be wearing what. Kids would be nude, dad might be in jeans and shirt while mum might be in just a teeshirt serving tee to Uncle Ian and Aunt Jeanette who would be starkers showing off their tan from the Balearics and passing round the holiday snaps.
I was so used to not wearing clothes, I still avoid underwear when I can. I tend to swan around naked with a dressing gown ready if I get visitors. The neighbours are OK about being able to see me and are used to most of my visitors getting down to their skin when visitng.
If mum comes round, she joins me and if my mate Mel comes round for the weekend, it's a two day naked girly party. She is not in the slightest bit fazed by being seen naked by anyone and is not adverse to waltzing her big wobbly bare arse into the room when textile work colleagues have just popped in.
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| Warmskin |
Posted - 11/06/2008 : 01:49:12 AM
That I could have only been raised as a nudist instead of being completely shamed of my body. Of course, the effort of my family to keep me ashamed didn't pan out. I found out early in life that I preferred no clothing. Nothing much is worse than having to lead a secret life is the only way of describing my being brought up. Please don't get me wrong, however, many other parts of my upbrining were of the highest value to this day.
The intermediate result of being taught to be ashamed of my body was that I thought being naked was somewhere on the order of sneaky and immoral. When bathing, I guess I didn't see the evil of being naked there. Conflict of values? I would say so. That's why I like being nude; it produces harmony within me.
That government governs best, which governs least - Thomas Jefferson |
| ROB g |
Posted - 10/16/2008 : 11:33:38 AM
Every one has made some great points here. But can you really spot a predator ? How many times do read in the paper or see ,listen to the news when the predator turns out to be a close friend or a family member.
Any one who wants to raise their kids this way is great. And just remeber that in my opion you take the same
chances raising kids as non nudists as you do nudists. All you can do is pray that they will be safe no matter what. and that you made the right decions on how you raised them. Once they are ready to live on their own. My philosphy is this the first person to see naked and the last one to see naked is a compeleet
stanger. what happens in between all we can do is hope for the best. |
| Diger |
Posted - 10/16/2008 : 11:02:11 AM
Thornapplebison,
I agree you don't OWE anyone a apology. You are entitled to your opinions and are others. But as far as this topic goes, I don't think you are right about it. I know another Naturist mother that use to post here, that quit because she felt no one wants to talk about real naturist issues. She told me it was all about shaving and errections ... and we wonder why we can't keep females interested in this forum.
I say let the pervs and predators be weeded out by the admin, and they can with our help. It doesn't take much to spot the predators here. Personaly I think if Freckles grew up Naturist she can spot a predator and can handle them. Some of us that were not raised naturist are not use to the day to day topics that have to be delt with and they sound creepy to us, but thats real life.
Freckles, Please continue with this topic. My wife and I have been raising two boys in a Naturist home, when we did not grow up Naturist ourselves. Some times it's good to here the voice of experience.
No offence intended Thornapplebison and hope none was taken.
Diger |
| thornapplebison |
Posted - 10/16/2008 : 02:41:08 AM
No, I don't owe anyone an apology. This is a forum for discussing nudism, not exhibitionism or the budding sexuality of a toddler.
I'm sure these are issues of interest to mothers, but they're also of interest to sexual predators. If you've ever read the family forum at nudist friends, you know how this sort of discussion can not only invite a dangerous element, but severely damage the reputation and public conception of nudism.
Freckles, I appreciate your decision. I would also caution you to be very concerned about any man who wants to have private conversations with you about your child's sexuality.
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| rooftopwilly |
Posted - 10/15/2008 : 3:09:33 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Freckles
Thanks guys,
I'm still here. It won't change the way I bring up my kids but I won't be posting anything about it here. Willy & Agde (or anyone else)- I'm quite happy to chat about these things by PM if you are interested.
Freckles
well freckles, i understand your reluctance to do so, but i wish you wouldn't allow just 2 opinions to force you to change your ways.
but if you'd like to, then great, i'm all up for it. as i said before, i have a 6 year old i'm trying to bring up in the lifestyle. so far, she has no qualms about it, but we'll see in the next 2 or 3 years.
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| ROB g |
Posted - 10/15/2008 : 12:51:12 PM
This subject was never brought up when I lived at home. I always wore something to bed. But after I got out on my own I have slept nude ever since. And I am nude when ever I can be. i have always felt comortable in the nude. At first I thought maybe I was just an exibitionist when ever playing truth or dare and told to take my clothes off and stay that way till given permission to put them back on and never ask if I could get dressed. Or when playing stripping games when Iwas usually the first one out and took the longest to get dressed. but my way of thinking has always been I'd rather be the only naked than the only one dressed.
I have always felt akward being dressed in front of compleetly nude people. But not so being the bare naked in front of compleetly dreesed . I know that sounds weird. I think as long as it is done with in reason people should raise their kids in a nudist enviorment. |
| Freckles |
Posted - 10/15/2008 : 12:28:25 PM
Thanks guys,
I'm still here. It won't change the way I bring up my kids but I won't be posting anything about it here. Willy & Agde (or anyone else)- I'm quite happy to chat about these things by PM if you are interested.
Freckles |
| rooftopwilly |
Posted - 10/14/2008 : 8:51:10 PM
freckles, if you are still there, it was only 2 people who made comments. don't let that get to you. a lot of us enjoyed reading how you were bringing your kids up to be comfortable with it. I'm trying to bring my six year old up that way as well.
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| agde |
Posted - 10/14/2008 : 5:28:34 PM
You guys owe Sandra (Freckles) an apology. |
| Freckles |
Posted - 10/14/2008 : 4:12:04 PM
Never meant to offend anyone's delicate sensibilities, so I have pulled my posts. Just thought people were interested in my kids. Won't bother again.
Bye. |
| thornapplebison |
Posted - 10/12/2008 : 01:54:19 AM
I could point to a few phrases here and there...the over-all tone...But this thread is really starting to creep me out. Anyone feel that?
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| nudegator |
Posted - 10/12/2008 : 12:08:30 AM
I wasnt growing up but once i got married my inlaws where talking about seeing then nude but over time got more comfey being nude around then
nudegator |
| agde |
Posted - 10/08/2008 : 1:54:47 PM
Freckles,
it sounds like you are doing a great job responding at a key point in your daughter's life! At school, appropriate clothes include undergarments. Dulcie is just learning the catalogue of places/activities and the associated dress codes, so being clear is really helpful. Meantime, one of my nieces similarly went through a "minnie" phase, her mom also realized it was a perfect time to begin discussing sexuality, and we kind of all (both genders) participated in reinforcing various messages -- being careful to know what her mom was saying, to treat sex as a non-taboo subject that one deals with whether clothed or not, and, without demonizing boys, to explain gender differences in feelings and consequences. It's a special transition time for young women when the healthy balance between body awareness, gender ideals, peer interactions and social customs gets set in place for all kinds of future challenges and choices.
For those of us who have survived our kids' teen years, all we really can advise is to enjoy the ride!  Anyway, kids always emerge better for having naturist parents! As a parent, it's just nice to be able to discuss with other naturist parents if something comes up... |
| agde |
Posted - 10/08/2008 : 02:04:09 AM
Having grown up with a gaggle of naturist girl cousins, etc, I think, thornapplebison, that you may be being a bit overly prescriptive. Kids just need to learn what clothing goes with what situation, and have outfilts that correspond to varying formality. It harmonizes very well with what behaviour is expected in various situations. The more you are dealing with strangers, the more circumspection and formality is appropriate.
Clearly, that is exactly what Freckles is teaching her girls, whether dealing with shop clerks, windy streets or school attire. With a perceptive mother, naturist girls quickly learn to deal with sexuality issues, but as a separate issue from nudity per se. They learn to how cope in each context and are stronger and safer for it.
On backyard pools, my mom had a kind of cheerfully open standard talk upfront with my textile guy-friends who were joining us for the first time in our clothes-free backyard pool -- normal behavior rules apply! And she "recruited" us naturist kids to be both role models and "mentors".for any newbies. Curiosity is normal if you aren't used to nudity, but without exception, once my friends knew the rules (even during the raging teen hormone years), they quickly adapted. As a parent, I borrowed her approach and have found that the joyful kid-side of teens always triumphs over any purient interest or prior mis-education.
Freckles, for the boys in your daughters' lives too, it is a vauable learning experience to have a first-hand encounter with naturist principles of behavior and respect. I've found that kids from non-nudist families really appreciate meeting a naturist parent who is open, aware of "conflicting" feelings, and happy to chat about it. Parents of naturist children tend to have a profound and positive parental impact on more than their own children. |
| thornapplebison |
Posted - 10/07/2008 : 3:03:10 PM
Also, well-played in the pool situation. Subtly is always the best way to go, if possible.
I hope you don't enjoy being your children's friend to such a degree that you deny them the safety and structure of growing up with a mother.
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